Tag Archive: Discrimination
I’ve written about my neighbour before, how he keeps banging and shouting at me. He’s been doing it for months, especially when I have my music on, even if it’s not particularly loud, at points where I feel it begins to open up. He does it when I’m singing as well, even when it’s not loud, and it rarely is, I’ve been that intimidated in recent months. He used to say he liked my singing. Now he seems to be using my points of openness to command me like a dog. I know he’s having problems, and I have said repeatedly that he should go to the police, but he seems to prefer to make me feel miserable. Recently I’ve been finding ways to yield and not vent, to go inside myself, but sometimes I boil over and, after about two hours of it last night I decided I’d had enough. The thing is, he sometimes sounds so pathetic, it goes right to my heart. But there is nothing I can do. The power is in his hands, and he prefers to use it towards me.
I’ve been feeling really desperate about this for ages. I reported it to the council, I told them everything, including the fact that I was getting hysterical and shouting back and that I was concerned for him and that we used to have a good relationship, or so I felt, even though, on closer examination, the harassment from his household started quite early in my tenancy, but it only manifested as one incident which I felt to be a shocking and outrageous invasion of privacy. Someone from the council came round and he told them there was no problem, that I had a lovely singing voice and was very supportive. I’ve not been able to be ‘supportive’ towards him for ages, and don’t see that as my role anyway, even if he wants to co-opt me into it. I just wanted to be a good, friendly neighbour, and tried to be that for ages. Recently I have been feeling so desperate and angry I have sometimes been channelling it into thoughts like he will die before me, hopefully. I can’t always just make my anger go away, it won’t always dissolve, sometimes it’s just overpowering and won’t be transformed into anything else, and I’ve usually felt I have to find a way not to vent it on him outwardly so I’ve been letting myself think these thoughts. Often, if I haven’t said anything, he’s just kept going, and I’ve kept feeling destroyed by it, and sometimes when I have shouted at him to stop I have felt I should have done it before, that he has just been taking advantage. Why don’t I just go round? I’m often embarrassed, and he is crafty and a liar, in my eyes.
Last night he yelled out while I had my music on and I interpreted it as ‘no’, so eventually I shouted back, ‘yes, actually’. I can’t remember if he was still yelling out at me when things eventually blew last night, but I shouted through my wall for him to stop harassing me, and he gave one sharp bang, which really upset me, and I shouted at him to stop, and he gave another, deliberate and well placed bang. I was outraged and beside myself, seeing this as violence, at least on a psychological level, and thinking it was sadistic, cold, cruel and calculated. So I shouted at him to leave, because he wasn’t going to drive me out. Then I shouted that, if he banged at me again, I would call the police. My hysteria kept coming in waves as everything was suddenly silent and I interpreted it as contempt and that he only goaded me to make me break down and that he enjoyed the show. In my desperation I told him I was finished as far as he is concerned, that there is no longer any good will coming from me towards him, and that I couldn’t wait for him to die, and I wouldn’t be sorry, and I hoped it would be soon. I told him I wouldn’t apologise for what I had said, and that he could live the rest of his tenancy next door to me knowing that this beautiful, kind, loving, talented woman just wanted him to die. Judge me, if you like. I’ve taken all I am prepared to take. I can’t stay open to this kind of behaviour, and won’t. I decided he needed to know exactly how he was making me feel and that he needed to deal with that. I’ve decided he’s not reasonable, he just wants to appear that way. He is a complete coward. He’s been doing the same stuff this morning as well.
Also, I have recently stopped feeling obliged to put my bins out every time the collection is due, because I have very little waste, and it has also turned out for me to be a way of living my life here on my terms and not feeling controlled by other people’s timetables, as if I have to keep jumping to it when other people and their routines seem to say I should. Premier Christian Radio has, on several occasions recently, made a thing of talking about putting bins out, together with other things they target me with, and I’m wondering if he has talked to them. I’m feeling ganged up on, again, as I believe, in actual fact, I am being.
So, what happened this morning? R in the wheelchair told me it was either Sue or Sharon who said she had legs, she should use them. When she told me that they were both sitting opposite me and she just said the one sitting opposite, so that is as close as I have it for now. They started whispering together and laughing. It came up about Sue swearing at me and telling me no one liked me again, and she said I had no proof. They told me I was boring and my blog, which they say they haven’t read, is boring. They told me I don’t know how to use my brain and that I am paranoid. Sue said I was paranoid when I was saying about her swearing etc.
OK, I don’t have proof, but she and I both know, and I know she is lying. She lies even to say she isn’t lying. What sort of person says that another has no proof when they are expressing that kind of concern and offense? I believe I should not need proof. They have almost absolute power over me and I think that I should not need proof in the same way that a person reporting a past sexual offense against themselves does not need it. We are that vulnerable. I hope it turns out that I do not need proof.
They were all shouting at me this morning and laughing at me and letting other people, patients, shout at me. They kept taking their side and using them to have a go at me. I tried to talk to the doctor about what was happening and they wanted to hang around outside the door and watch, as if I was dangerous, so I said I would talk to someone else. Jesus said the same thing – why have you come at me like this?
I couldn’t eat lunch, it was too spicy.
Whatever these people want, I will not work with them. They are Nazis. I will not have it said that they are working with me by my consent. I’m not sure what they think they are trying to achieve, if it is not just trying to disempower and humiliate me. Helen was there again, Steve who was responsible, so I was told, for the decision to not even help me with my bed. Steve stayed laughing in the background, the women worked me over.
It started because I was told I needed to be out of my room so they could do a cleaning audit, and I let them bully me out. I wasn’t dressed, I hadn’t showered. When I pointed that out Sue gave me an empty stare and said ‘tough’. I’d had a bad night because a woman on my corridor kept slamming the door again, I think it was Kerry, but I’m not sure. It also could have been staff. When I wanted to go back in my room Sue was sitting there and she said ‘she won’t come out again’, then we got into an argument about my right to stay in my room, and the fact that they can’t manhandle us out if we are not a danger to ourselves or anyone else. As I said last night, they know it is the only place I have and they are taking full advantage of that. They were saying the other patients were all out and I said they didn’t have to be because the law protects us. They were goading me, with complete disrespect. They stripped me naked and insisted I stay among them in my distress, with them tossing me around on their horns. I’ve had the hospital as my only home for nearly 16 months. It has always been untenable. I told them I would probably be gone within a month because accommodation and discharge is being talked about, and one of them threw up their hands and said hurray, or something to that effect. Two of the other patients started on me, one said I should be in prison or in a hostel and that they were going to phone the police. She got on the phone and asked for Scotland Yard. I told her I would happily be in a hostel but they wouldn’t let me go. I’ve got to wait until after 4th September when my Care Co-ordinator gets back from leave, unless I can find out from my advocate that there is a quicker way of doing it.
I had a dream last night that I was looking after Brian May’s house for him while he was away. I also dreamt about the whole of the original Queen cast, but their hair was up in frizzy bunches on each side of their heads, while they were singing.
Oh, apart from putting me in the wrong all the time they asked me if I wasn’t sick of the sound of my voice.
Of course my constant fear about my blog is that it isn’t making the difference I want it to make, that in spite of all the clicks people don’t read it and they do think it is boring. All I can say is that I am a real person coping,or trying to, with a terrible situation. And I think I have something to say which should be taken seriously and should make the difference I keep saying I want it to make for myself and for others.
On Sunday morning 5th February between 9 and 10 am I was in the O2 Shopping centre at Finchley Road, NW3. I have never been in there before or got off in the area for years. I had noticed an express hotel while passing on a bus and although they had no rooms, they were happy for me to buy tea and coffee through the night and buy breakfast.
I decided after standing at the bus stop for a little while that I would go in and see what was there, see if I could get a cup of coffee. I went into Starbucks at just after 9am. A young policeman came in directly behind me and as soon as I had finished asked for a fuckochino.
I’m sitting in Caffe Nero at the moment fighting for emotional possession of what should be mine to possess, where they have repeatedly looked at me as if I am a nuisance since I came in, and they are trying to do some sort of operatic thing behind the counter. I’m finding it distracting and an act of sabotage, at least in terms of emotional connection, so my writing is hurting me. I heard something recently which makes me feel that the police might have leaked a photograph of me to people and places like these, or maybe this is just the way they deal with people they really don’t like the look of and don’t want around. I say again, schizophrenia is imposed by ruling dishonest savages and is not inherent in the person. They advertise free internet here, but seem to be doing everything they can to distract me in my use of it. It is not supposed to be their creative space to the distraction of the customers. If I wanted opera I’d pay for it or find it on the internet. I certainly don’t want to be involved in an angry psychic improvisation in a way that totally grabs at and demands my attention, for whatever reason. It is 8.07 am at Canary Wharf. It seems there is a wave they grab at with singing every time I start to think and feel. I feel fear and distress and hurt and anger. Betrayal and discrimination.
But back to Starbucks in the O2 shopping centre at Finchley Road. And if I don’t manage to write all I know is in me to write, I might hopefully be able to come back to it later. These coffee bar people seem to think they are the new 5 star hotel staff or the aristocracy themselves, but that goes for all service staff everywhere, in my experience. Always imposing themselves, no discretion or sensitivity. They have the rights, they say in writing, and their power is always upheld. But we are paying and they are the paid. So if they distract or impose themselves it is an act of theft, as much as anything. I know my recent writing must have done the grapevine, and they are deliberately trying to distract me. That is harassment. I’ve never been in here before.
I asked the policeman if he had asked for a fuckochino, and his mate (3 or 4 others had joined him, including a woman. I only remember one but maybe there were two) said to him ‘did you ask for a fuckochino?’ and he said ‘yes, I did’, and they made a joke of it. I talked about verbal assault and harassment and went and sat down with my coffee. I sat in a corner as far away as I could manage in the hope that it would keep them away from me, and also there was an electrical socket to plug my laptop into, which was what I needed.
Anyway, they sat level with me, but on the other side of the room. They sat there effing and blinding loudly for ages and no one challenged them. They were talking about crazy, crazy cat and vegan frappacino, which is something I had quite a lot in Starbucks when the weather was warmer. They have told me their syrups are all vegan, so I have it made with soya milk and without cream.
Shortly after they started this a man came in with his young daughter. I think from memory she was around 10 years old. I had noticed her on the escalator earlier. She had lovely long red hair. They sat in front of me facing me, and I hoped they wouldn’t leave as I saw their presence as my safety and protection. But these officers must have gone on for about 20 minutes or more in this vein, and eventually one of them said something about the position being clear. They seemed to be watching my reaction and gathering from it that I was not going to get involved, but blog. Soon afer he said about the position being clear I said my position was that I didn’t like them sitting there harassing me and using that language, which anyone else might have been arrested for, and talking about crazy. Although they went quiet as I was speaking they didn’t acknowledge me, but I think they left in a sort of silence a minute or two later, no apologies to me or to anyone else.
Afterwards I sat there confused, feeling as if the attention was a positive thing and that it would be treacherous, unreasonable and perverse of me to find anything wrong with it and to try to expose it. I thought they were trying to centre with me, perhaps, and stripping themselves of all decency to make me feel secure and communicate that they wanted to talk to me and wanted me to trust them. What else, after all, is supposed to be communicated by their lovely smart uniforms and their clean, fresh appearance?
Then I thought what if it was someone else being treated like that? If I accepted it as positive for myself it would be saying it was OK to do to someone else. And at Heathrow I was arrested for swearing. Mine was in desperation and anger but theirs was a constant stream of non-stop, jocular, almost barrack room stuff. And there was a little girl and her father hearing it all. Recently they have been saying to me that there are children around when I have been angry with them, and I have said that I didn’t care. In the situation it was emotional blackmail. These officers did not care that this little girl was party to this behaviour. I’m not sure they thought about her at all. They could see her. When they have challenged me with the statement that there were children around, I couldn’t even see them.
I was thinking last night about something I have read quite often, that there are people with such low self-esteem that even negative attention is seen as something to be desired. That is me. In the presence of such a clean image, even if they are acting like that, I feel like such a low life that I deserve it, or that they are even engaging in an act of kindness to tell me that they are approachable.
But yesterday I thought (I have just looked at the girl behind the counter. She looks very angry and defiant of me. She knows as well as I what they are doing) would anyone want their mother or grandmother or wife or daughter or any other female to be treated that way? If I ‘OK-ed’ it for myself, would anyone else thank me for that?
I stopped to think just now and when inspiration began to come, when I started to level out with my own emotions and thoughts, one of the girls behind the counter said ‘here we go again’. It is a deliberate act of control and sabotage. They have just started singing again in the same harassing way. I was not going to write about them, but since they are taking from me the things I am wanting to write about, they have brought it on themselves. I’m not sure who they are doing it for. Every time I stop to feel an emotion they whine it out. That is a statement of fact, not hatred speaking.
I can’t go into it in depth in these conditions, I can’t access depth language and expression or thought or memory reconstruction, but I was feeling that I have lost my sense of where the boundary lines ought to be, that I felt guilty about not accepting their behaviour with gratitude in the first place, and that I still do. The officers were completely inappropriate in their behaviour, and it would have been equally inappropriate with or without the presence of the child, and whether it had been public or private.
So that is it. That is that incident from Sunday. There were about 4 or 5 others over the course of the weekend, but this one was completely unsolicited in a place I have never been in before. I’m almost afraid to make such a categorical statement, but I believe it cannot be OK. However extraordinary the situation, proper procedure and approach should always be adhered to.
I told the girl’s father that I loved her red hair and thought it was beautiful. I did think it was beautiful, and I wanted to say so, because there are so many instances of redheads being bullied and I read about one recently, and I wanted to affirm her. Afterwards I felt as if I might have been stupid. I tried to stop the father as he was leaving and apologise if my comment had been stupid, but although I think he heard me say ‘excuse me’ he didn’t stop. At the time I only saw them as being a protection for me. I didn’t think about them being equal victims of the situation at all.
A few minutes ago the girl behind the counter said loudly, angrily and challengingly ‘I’m spiritual’. She has loudly said ‘sorry’ a couple of times, but not to me, though it was meant for my hearing.
A few weeks ago I read and commented on a blog called ‘disable me’. I feel as if I am being conceited even to mention it and to say this is a deliberate attempt to disable and control. The way she is talking at the moment I have an image of someone parading themselves angrily on a platform and insisting on being acknowledged and looked at.
Finished 9.32 am
She has just said ‘baby’. And now she is singing Cum by ya, and has gone into mocking singing.
Edit 9.42 They are openly and derisively miaowing at me. It is savage.
If the way these people have treated me is typical, they and their country should self-destruct, and I hope to see it in my lifetime.
Display it, move it down and take it off, replace it when challenged so I look like an idiot, then take it off again. No explanation. Katie and the Forbidden Male Principle Post, published an hour and a half ago, is now nowhere to be found on this board. Ignore, reposition, delete, treat as if dead or non-existent, except for electronic and psychological stalking – to a victim of serious church stalking and corruption, so serious it has landed her in a mental hospital. It is satanic and demonic contempt of human life. These people who run this board are not acting like responsible Christians, even if that is what they claim to be.